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Making “Good Trouble” Four Decades Apart

  • January 19, 2026January 19, 2026
  • by admin

Today, January 19, 2026, marks a day of celebration in the United States, in honor of Martin Luther King, Jr., a human rights defender who, in 1968, paid the ultimate price for standing by his fight for social justice and against race discrimination.

On the other side of the Atlantic in the country of Turkey (and beyond) it is a day of commemoration for another human rights defender by the name of Hrant Dink, assassinated on January 19, 2007.

These two remarkable individuals never met and their respective struggles for justice may not be directly related and yet their stories are essential for understanding the connections that must be made if we believe in “making good trouble,” in the words of John Lewis, Dr. King’s protege and close ally.

The lives of these two remarkable individuals were marked by repressive regimes that forced their own selective narratives upon their citizens. When Dr. King became the leader of the civil rights movement with his amazing oratory skills and practice of non-violent resistance, he knew his ancestors had previously been paying the price of government-imposed narratives that considered them a threat to national security.

Similarly, when Hrant Dink founded the first Armenian-Turkish weekly newspaper Agos and dug into the stories of those Ottoman Armenians who had lost their entire families during the genocide of 1915, he was facing a similar narrative imposed upon him when Turkish officialdom labeled him a “traitor” to the nation.

There is a Turkish expression called “ezber bozmak” loosely translated as “unmaking what’s memorized,” it means “disrupting a narrative.” Both Dr. King and Hrant Dink were examples of those individuals who, despite the threat to their lives, would not give up the mission of speaking truth to power…of going after the truths that repressive regimes would rather avoid and/or conceal. The legacy of their fight against discrimination and injustice is not limited to the lands they were born in. From Myanmar to Gaza, from Iran to Russia, the battle of the narratives grinds on in front of our eyes. The authoritarians of the world insist on labeling anyone with an alternative perspective as traitors or sometimes terrorists and their actions as mostly instigated by “foreign outsiders.”

In our own country, the government condones the killing of a female citizen by labeling her a “domestic terrorist,” similar to the way Iran’s mullahs are claiming those rebelling against the regime are simply pawns of foreign forces. In Gaza, there is overwhelming proof of the state of Israel committing indefensible violations of human rights and yet that state’s narrative retains its own perspective based solely on its own security. And in Russia, a dictator (much admired by the President of the United States) has been continuing its own false narrative about a war he started against Ukraine, much to the detriment of an education system that is force-fed the extremes of militaristic nationalism. In a fascinating documentary titled Mr. Nobody Against Putin primary school students are forced to memorize and present scripts written and fed to educators by the powers that be. The Russian teacher who documented this educational nightmare had to flee Russia helped by the film’s co-director. It is unclear whether Putin and his cohorts will target him in exile when the film becomes publicly available in just a few days.

What is clear is that the road for those “making good trouble” by disrupting age-old narratives is paved with much struggle and in worst cases by cold-blooded murder. Dr. King paid the ultimate price for his non-violent struggle against discrimination when he was shot on April 4, 1968. Nearly four decades later, Hrant Dink who refused to flee the land he called home was murdered in cold-blood on January 19, 2007.

They both may have paid the ultimate price by losing their lives before their mission was fulfilled, but their legacy will go on. There are connections to be made all around our communities, our countries and our entire world.  As we mourn the passing of heroes such as Dr. King and Hrant Dink, we must continue to believe in the power of hope against odds…of making good trouble for a better future for all the world’s children.

Ayıp

  • October 10, 2025January 19, 2026
  • by admin


It shouldn’t be this easy…

It’s been nearly two decades that I started thinking and writing about one of the most massive human rights violations in history: the Armenian Genocide of 1915. It had taken me most of my adult life to come to terms with that particular subject and subsequently the term genocide in relation to what happened to Ottoman Armenians in the waning days of the Ottoman Empire.

But today, on the eve of the announcement of the Nobel Peace Prize of 2025,  I am thinking of another term befitting the times that we are living in. That word is “ayıp” and it means shameful in my mother tongue. It is fitting to use the concept of shamelessness on this day October 8, 2025, because it shouldn’t be so easy for anyone – no matter how self-aggrandizing and self-promoting he/she may be – to consider oneself worthy of a Peace Prize. As I write this, the President of the United States (who shall remain nameless for the entirely of this article) is boasting about having formulated a long-awaited ceasefire in the Middle East. I’ll say “Ayıp” with a capital A because it shouldn’t be so easy for said President to…

  • Make his way into the highest office of this land as a previously convicted felon.[1]
  • Limit journalists’ access to a federal agency under the pretext of national security[2]
  • Threaten institutions of higher education by undermining their funding, research and global engagement[3]
  • Change the welcoming text for newly naturalized citizens according to his personal version of patriotism[4]
  • Sanitize the history of the US according to the narrowest definition of patriotism, à la authoritarian governments[5]
  • Use racist social media posts to mock opponents[6]
  • Spend $200 million on a White House ballroom that presents zero benefit for the millions of the nation’s unemployed and underserved citizens

Finally, it shouldn’t be so easy to claim having worked for peace when one has been quoted as saying he would like to turn the Gaza strip into the Riviera of the Middle East (after expelling Palestinians) while his administration continues to be the number one supplier of military aid[7] into a genocidal war in which more than 67,000 residents of that land (about 20,000 of those being children) have been killed and countless others have been left disabled, disfigured, unhoused and unemployed.

There is another expression in my mother tongue and that is “yüz kızartıcı,” used for such acts so shameful and so heinous that they turn one’s face flushed red. But I’m afraid the only color that I see glowing with hubris and undeserved attention today is orange…you be the judge.


[1] Trump to Become First Convicted Felon to Serve as President

[2] Pentagon to limit journalists’ access unless they agree not to publish certain information

[3] White House considers funding advantage for colleges that align with Trump policies

President Trump’s return to office has ushered in significant changes to federal policy affecting colleges and universities

[4] Trump’s welcome message to new citizens isn’t very welcoming

[5] How the Education Dept. Wants to Advance ‘Patriotic Education’

[6] Trump posts racist, AI-generated video of Schumer and Jeffries ahead of looming government shutdown

[7] https://costsofwar.watson.brown.edu/paper/AidToIsrael

Sirri Sureyya Onder and Leonard Zeskind

If April is the cruelest month, what of May…

  • May 19, 2025May 19, 2025
  • by admin

It was April 15…the day when a deeply humanist writer, actor, columnist and politician was taken to the ICU in Istanbul. His name was Sırrı Süreyya Önder and he was a prominent and much beloved figure in Turkey’s efforts to find a peaceful solution to the country’s relations with its Kurdish citizens. His hospitalization came right in the middle of a period of substantial change in the direction that the Turkish government had taken towards its Kurdish population over the last fifty years…a period marred by extensive focus and heavy-handed military approach to fighting the PKK, the terrorist organization founded on the basis of fighting for the rights of Turkey’s Kurds. The outpouring of support and prayers for Önder’s recovery was no surprise, admired as he was for his singularly charismatic and well-intentioned approach in all of his endeavors. What is more significant about him as a key peace negotiator and a pro-Kurdish MP is that he himself was not Kurdish. He was simply a good human being dedicated to basic human rights for all. Önder died 18 days after he was hospitalized. He was only 62.

On this side of the ocean, again on April 15, a writer and thinker by the name of Leonard Zeskind died at age 75. Jewish by birth, Zeskind had become socially conscious during the mid-sixties’ Black Freedom Movement and subsequently dedicated his life to researching and writing about the origins and rise of white nationalism in the United States. A lifetime member of NAACP, Zeskind spent years following the trails of modern-era Klansmen, neo-Nazis and other rightwing groups. In 2018, he was quoted as saying: “For a nice Jewish boy, I’ve gone to more Klan rallies, neo-Nazi events and Posse Comitatus things than anybody should ever have to.” His book was titled Blood & Politics, the History of the White Nationalist Movement from the Margins to the Mainstream foresaw the rise of anti-immigrant groups in the US way before this country would elect an openly racist President not once but twice. Just like Önder, Zeskind was a social justice advocate, dedicated to human rights for all, not only for his own kind. He died knowing that his seminal book was among 381others banned from the US Naval Academy Library in the current government’s anti-diversity purge.

April was indeed the cruelest month. So, what of the month of May then?

In Turkey, the PKK has unequivocally announced its disarmament during an official congress on May 12. Several questions remain on the docket for the future of Turkey vis-à-vis its Kurdish population. The least of which is whether the mantra of “Turkey without Terrorism” heralded by the current government ushers in the consolidation of Turkey’s democracy as in the true meaning of the rule of law and a solidly independent judiciary.

In the United States, the soft authoritarianism of President Trump and his acolytes continues unabated. Whether the multitude of lawsuits against the administration’s shameless attacks on any and all organizations and/or institutions it doesn’t approve of bear fruit in the coming months (most likely years) is far from certain.

What is painfully clear at this particular juncture is that the smidgeon of hope for a better future in terms of human rights for all seems to have a slightly better chance in Turkey than it does in the United States. Even the most cautious of optimists in Turkey have articulated their hope for the start (not the resolution) of a period of substantial discussion regarding the political, social and cultural rights of the country’s Kurdish citizens, the largest minority group of that country.

T.S.Eliot coined the phrase “April is the cruelest month” because it suggests that while spring is a time of rebirth and new growth, it can just as easily stir up old memories and emotions and leave us yearning for the numbness of colder months.

Maybe, just maybe, years from now, we will witness a United States where one of those US-born citizens, be they white or black or brown or any other color of the rainbow, will be elected President again and that he or she will carry on the mantle of bringing back civility, honesty and true diversity to this country. And that he/she will do this because he/she will put their humanity ahead of ethnicity, religion, party affiliation or personal gain when fighting for what is right.

With my apologies to T.S.Eliot’s singular poetry cited at the beginning of my musings,  I will end by using the old and overused adage and say, “Hope springs eternal.”

For your perusal:

Reuters
Pro-Kurdish MP and key peace negotiator Onder dies at 62

Associated Press
A Turkish politician at the center of efforts to end 40-year Kurdish conflict dies at 62

New York Times
Leonard Zeskind, Who Foresaw the Rise of White Nationalism, Dies at 75

NPR
Famed anti-racist expert Leonard Zeskind, who warned of fascism’s rise, has died

We’re All Human and So Are The Filmmakers

  • February 7, 2022January 19, 2026
  • by admin

I know I did this in my previous post, but humor me if you will while I begin this post also with yet another excellent expression in Turkish: “hevesi kursağında kalmak.” As with most Turkish expressions, this one is not easy to translate (forget it, google translate!). 

A literal translation would be something like “my enthusiasm got stuck in my craw,” or “I couldn’t stomach it.” (Yes, language IS extremely important and so are language rights…but that’s a whole other subject so forgive my digression.) The subtleties of the expression, however, refer to those singular situations where one feels so excited, so elated and full of hope for something, that when a disappointing outcome arrives, it’s as if the rug has been pulled out from underneath…but not quite so abruptly you find yourself suddenly hitting a hard floor, but more slowly and painfully, as if in slow motion, after a long wait. The expression came to mind as I worked my way through the second season of the Netflix limited series Kulüp, or “The Club.”

There I was after the much acclaimed and talked about (at least in some Turkish/Jewish/Armenian/American circles) season 1, waiting for season 2 with that hope and enthusiasm. Season 1 was an excellent example of what could be achieved when impeccable production standards were used to bring forth the kind of stories that were once attempted but somewhat forgotten in the world of Turkish taboo-breaking filmmaking. Here was a movie shot in Turkey, speaking about two of the worst atrocities committed against that country’s non-Muslim communities, the real-estate tax that sent hundreds of Armenians and Jewish people to a labor camp in 1942, and the 1955 pogroms directed primarily against the Greek minorities in the city of Istanbul. “The Club” was also the first time the authentic Ladino language spoken by the ever-shrinking community of Sephardic Jews in Istanbul was represented in speech as well as song. 

And there was more…the reference to memory and remembrance as represented by one of the character’s mother, a Turkish citizen of Greek origin who was stricken by Alzheimer’s. There was a lot to admire and applaud in what the filmmakers were striving for in these first episodes. 

Then came Season 2 when the series was taken over by a tendency toward melodrama — not exactly the kind one would find in the old-fashioned love stories in old Turkish films filled with rich girl/poor boy-poor girl/rich boy stories. This melodramatic turn put all the resources of this quality production in the service of the “good Muslim Turk” portrayal at the expense of rational character development. 

In the first season, there is a Turkish character by the name of Çelebi whose obsessive interest in the main female character Matilda was depicted alongside sexual abuse of female employees, such as the Greek dancer Tasula. Comes Season 2 and slowly but surely this man becomes some kind of a valiant hero who not only professes his undying love for Matilda but manages to save dozens of Greek and Jewish people running away from the Turkish nationalist lynch mobs pillaging the neighborhood. And there is more: Matilda is so overcome by gratitude at this point, as her own daughter is amongst those saved by Çelebi, that she gives him the biggest and warmest hug of the entire series. 

There are plenty of other examples but suffice it to say that the scenarists apparently decided that instead of using the storytelling to reveal and explore the reality of some of the worst atrocities committed against minorities in Turkey, they put their beautifully and painstakingly crafted sets in the service of a half-baked reconciliation effort. That is the only explanation for the beautiful dinner table at the end of the series where nearly the full cast of characters are seen seated happily enjoying a little feast. The only missing characters are Orhan (who commits suicide after having been outed as a Greek-turned Turk after trying to hide his true identity in order to keep up his success as a businessman) and a young Turkish man (whose lust after the Greek Tasula leads to his death) The main character, Matilda, meanwhile has chosen to stay in Istanbul, forgoing the opportunity to immigrate to Israel. Please note that this warm and fuzzy dinner table happens to include the rapist Çelebi and his prior victim Tasula.

Instead the filmmakers might have left the audience pondering the weight of the atrocities, the dilemmas of the characters, and the difficult conditions under which these minorities would continue living following these events, with a less than perfect ending. 

Which brings me to why this blog is titled “We’re all human and so are the filmmakers.” I do not know and will not guess as to who or what support lay behind this extremely posh production worthy of Netflix, but I will venture to guess that the filmmakers may have wanted to please more than a small circle of truth-seeking idealists like myself, and therefore wanted to wrap the series up with in reconciliatory tone and a relatively happy ending. At least they were able to expose these topics, and perhaps that was the goal.

Was it an excellent film? Probably not, considering a film with much more primitive standards had been made 23 years ago (Salkım Hanımın Taneleri) with much starker representations of the true nature of the crime committed against minorities in Turkey. That said, was it a positive development to see a film like The Club produced in the first place? Absolutely! 

The way any story is told through the craft of filmmaking is certainly up to the filmmakers’ prerogative…even if this one left me pondering the following: 

Is it truly that easy to jump from the realities of extreme bias and prejudice resulting in indescribable violence and outright massacre into the utopia of reconciling around the dining table? For the answer to that question, I will let Bryan Stevenson have the last word. He is the founder of Equal Justice Initiative, an attorney, author, and human rights activist who speaks about the importance of NOT “skipping steps” when it comes to communities and nations facing and coming to terms with their tainted histories. Here is a direct quote: “I think it’s really important that people understand that if you’re genuinely engaged and recovering from human rights abuses, you have to commit to truth-telling first. You can’t jump to reconciliation. You can’t jump to reparation or restoration until you tell the truth. Until you know the nature of the injuries, you can’t actually speak to the kind of remedies that are going to be necessary.”

Thank you for reading dear friends…my comments on the documentary Hafıza Yetersiz/System Memory Too Low for Words will have to wait for another time since the standards for documentaries based on inarguable facts and figures differ widely from those for fictional films. 

More information on The Club:

https://www.netflix.com/title/81257567

More information on Salkım Hanımın Taneleri:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mrs._Salkım%27s_Diamonds

The interview where the quote from Bryan Stevenson is taken:

https://www.vox.com/platform/amp/21327742/bryan-stevenson-the-ezra-klein-show-america-slavery-healing-racism-george-floyd-protests

On Hrant Dink and the Power of Anecdotes

  • January 19, 2022January 19, 2026
  • by admin

Author: Gonca Sönmez-Poole

January 19, 2022

There’s an expression in Turkish — “dile kolay” — that is used when something — usually in quantifiable numbers — has lasted a long time. And so here I am using the expression on the 15th anniversary of the murder of Hrant Dink. It has been 15 years since I found out about this exceptional individual who inspired millions of people in Turkey and spoke the truth about that country’s tainted past in a way that appealed to the common man, without insulting or hurting those who may not have been ready to hear him out. And yet the forces of evil were at work and Dink was murdered 15 years ago today in front of his newspaper office building…the very spot where every year, his life and legacy is commemorated by those who refuse to forget about him and the shameful justice system that has never completely solved his assassination case. 

It has been 15 years since I started reading any and all things he had written and/or said. I have also used my own background in visual storytelling and have put together video stories that may give perspective to the various ways the subject of the Armenian Genocide has affected Armenians and Turkish people alike…albeit in hugely different ways.

In these past 15 years, I have had the privilege of listening to a multitude of people, both professionals as well as laymen/women, always fascinated by how the incontrovertible truth of the Armenian Genocide is understood and reflected upon in so many different ways, depending on the background and the life experience of the person in question.

I had the privilege of knowing and learning from historians, sociologists, and political scientists (Professors Taner Akçam, Fatma Müge Göcek, Gerard Libaridian, Ron Suny, Lerna Ekmekcioğlu, Ohannes Kılıçdağı and Ümit Kurt to name but a few), from conflict resolution specialists such as Prof. Eileen Babbitt, Dr. Pam Steiner, and Paula Parnagian) and a myriad of other professionals whose names would add up to a list too long to recite here. And most important, I had various conversations with Armenian and Turkish people with various backgrounds bringing me to the conclusion that there is one truth (the Armenian Genocide) but more than one personal recollection and reflection on it. Over the years following Dink’s assassination, I would write about these conversations and send them out to a long list of contacts, some in Turkey but mostly in the United States where I live. I never forget how one such contact (an academician) dismissed the stories I had written as “just anecdotes.” And that brings me to the exceptional character of Hrant Dink and the title of this blog post.

Dink may not have been a world-class historian, an academician or in the eyes of some, not even an accomplished intellectual of the first order. He may not have been proficient at the language of academia, replete with its specific vernacular practiced around conference tables that is. BUT and this is a BIG but: What he spoke was a language that was accessible to his readers and his audience, the kind that spoke to people’s hearts and minds precisely because he spoke the language of the common man. He was able to appeal to those thousands and thousands of people around Anatolia because he would hear them out and give them a voice by collecting and publishing their stories. Call them anecdotes, stories, or “badmıvadzk”  (lucky for me I learned a new word in Armenian just yesterday) those are the tools with which Dink was able to connect thousands of readers of Agos (the bilingual newspaper he founded and wrote for) to Armenians and Turks in Anatolia and beyond. His readers were those who wouldn’t have had the opportunity to know about those stories if he hadn’t started to collect and publish them. Anecdotes that he unearthed that were hidden away and unexplored for decades. Stories like the one about Beatrice Hanım (Ms. Beatrice) told to Dink by a Muslim man from Sivas. The man told Dink that 70-year-old Beatrice hanım would travel from France to this little village of Sivas (a province of Turkey) several times a year, and that she had died there during her last visit. While discussing where to bury her, her daughter had started crying hearing what this Sivas man had said: “I know she is yours, it’s your mother and you can do as you wish but if you ask me let her be buried right here. You see, the water has found its crack.”  Dink told and retold that story (among many others) many times before his life was taken from him 15 years ago. And yet that anecdote still resonates and is heard loud and clear by those who care to listen.

Hrant Dink (from his presentation at a Bilgi University Conference in Istanbul on September 25, 2005):

“Indeed yes, we Armenians do covet these lands, because our roots are here, but don’t worry: not so we can take the land away, but so we can go lie deep down under it.”

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